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My kids had changed by leaps and bounds
Jennifer C., an adoptive parent in Elk City, Oklahoma
I want the world to know the family we have been blessed with. My husband and I have been involved in the foster/adoptive care system for the last 8 years.
We received custody of my husband's cousins in 1999 as foster children at the age of 3 years and 7 years. When they came to us, they were very broken children. Within six months, my kids had changed by leaps and bounds. It was hard at times but when I look back now it is hard to imagine the children they once were. It is amazing what a little bit of love and structure can establish with the actions of a child no matter what they have been through. Now at the ages of 11 and 16, they are still wonderful children (I couldn't have ordered better.) They are a/b honor roll and my 11 year old just got accepted into gifted and talented program. The oldest has questions at times, but we work through them and she knows that this family is her rock and where she can be herself.
In 2000, I also ended up getting pregnant and had a son. Adding to my other son and daughter, they experienced the birth of anther family member and have bonded just as my brothers and I have.
In 2003, we started fostering again. We know the need of the system and enjoyed seeing the children thrive with what comes naturally love and a family unit. We talked with our children and explained to them with knowing what they experienced as young children that we wanted to give kids the home, food, and the family they once craved. They agreed. From that point on, they got very excited when a new family member arrived. In just a few years, we went through about 23 foster children. We loved every one of them and think about their well-being all the time.
We had a sibling set and their biological mother had a baby. She came to me at two days old and in May 2005, we had the pleasure of making her our little girl. She is now 2 years old and she is beautiful.
All of my children are awesome blessings and I would not know what to do without them. They all act as a family unit just as I did when I lived home with my brothers. I want everyone to know that this is the family I take great pride in and there is no difference in how they came to us. They are ours and I love them all the same.
In 2007, we put in a letter of intent to adopt three other children, two of which we have had the chance to bond with in foster care.
I am a firm believer all children are a gift from God--it does not matter how they are delivered. I know there is a difference to be made I live it every day. And only wish I had the means to take more.
Much luck to all of you who are considering adoption or foster care and all of you who continue to open your hearts for these little miracles.
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